

She’s poised under pressure and able to handle strong-willed people in an authoritative, yet respectful way. So what does grace look like? It’s the woman who commands the room simply with her presence. We can’t quite explain it, but we know it when we see it. It’s much like executive presence, which can be an enigma. Grace is your approach, your style and the way you deal with people and situations. You earn your grit, which brings you credibility and respect, and then you can find your grace. You learn from success or failure, and then you do it again and again. They're cultivated and evolve when you get out of your comfort zone and push through. In my experience, both confidence and grit are developed by taking action one step at a time. In their book The Confidence Code, Katty Kay and Claire Shipman make a compelling argument that the lack of confidence is the single biggest barrier to success for women in the workplace.

Yet some research shows that many women under 40 may have a confidence gap compared to men. Grit also includes building resilience and confidence - two critical attributes for all successful leaders. Necessary traits for developing grit include courage, tenacity, focus and mental toughness. She points to grit as the reason why some people succeed and others fail. How can women get grit? In her groundbreaking, best-selling book Grit , author and researcher Angela Duckworth describes grit as a combination of passion and perseverance for a singularly important goal. Grit is the foundation, so let’s begin there. If you think of the combination of grit and grace as a recipe, grit would be the cake. They provide women with their own road map to success that allows for bold leadership combined with warmth. Grit and grace, together, can be formidable for women in the leadership game.
